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Lois Elizabeth Day was born on July 28 1926 in New Malden near Kingston-on-Thames, England. Her father Edmond Cecil Rhodes was a statistician at the London School of Economics, best known for his book The Marks of Examiners. Her mother Mona Josephine Rhodes spent her childhood in convents in France and Belgium.

Family friends in her childhood knew Lois as Pixie, but her mother and father and other friends called her Sue. Educated at Wimbledon High School she went on to Cheltenham Ladies College, and then to University College, London where she read History. While working for finals, she met her husband Peter in the Middlesex Library in the Senate House of the University of London. They were married in 1951, bought an old house in Ware, Hertfordshire and had their first child Catherine.

In 1954 the family travelled to Madison, Wisconsin spending 18 months on a Commonwealth Fund fellowship. They returned to England in 1956 and moved to a house in Bayfordbury belonging to the John Innes Institute where Peter worked. Two more children, Rupert and Bill, were born there. In 1963, the family moved to Columbus, Ohio and then, in the following year, to Hamden, Connecticut where they spent the next 15 years and became US citizens.

Sue had originally wanted to study medicine but was persuaded to do an arts degree. However, once the children were in school she obtained a masters degree in Speech Therapy and worked in Shelton, CT teaching young children with speech and hearing difficulties from the public school system. During this time Sue went to St Andrews, Scotland, and later to Canada, to complete a Teachers Certificate of the Royal Scottish Dance Society. Together Sue and Peter worked with others to establish the New Haven Branch of the RSCDS. They attended a party in Woodbridge, CT to celebrate its 40th anniversary in November 2017.

In 1979 Peter returned to England to take up a job in Cambridge. Sue joined him there a year later to set up a home in the village of Great Shelford. She was active in the Visiting Scholars Society that provided help, advice and friendship to the wives of academics and others sojourning at Cambridge University.

In 1987 they returned to the US to live in North Brunswick, New Jersey. Sue's Cambridge experience led her to establish, with another faculty wife, an International Women's Group at Rutgers University to help the wives of visiting faculty from overseas to adjust to the complexities of life in the USA.

In April 2003 Sue was awarded a PhD in Interdisciplinary Studies by the Graduate College of Union Institute and University. Her thesis, entitled Culture Shock and Beyond: the Experiences of Foreign Wives of Foreign Graduate Students and Postdoctoral Fellows Sojourning at Rutgers University, explored, through interviews and questionnaires, the changes in these women's perceptions of themselves as unwaged wives and the opportunities missed in not offering them employment because of visa restrictions.

Sue and Peter moved from New Jersey to New Port Richey, FL in 2003 and for several years Sue assisted students of English as a Second Language at Marchman College, Port Richey as a volunteer.

While living in Madison Sue became interested in the Religious Society of Friends (Quakers) and became a member on returning to England. She was clerk of New Haven Friends Meeting, CT, for some years and played an active role in New England Yearly Meeting.

Sue had Alzheimer's Disease and died on September 11 at home in New Port Richey under hospice care. She is survived by her husband, three children, and four grandchildren.